How to rock 2018 without making a single resolution

January-04-2018 0 comments

New Years Resolutions.

We make them.

We break them.

We feel guilty and grouchy when we forget about them.

What’s worse? The traditional goal setting process doesn’t even set you up for success. According to Statistic Brain, only 9% of people are successful in achieving their resolutions.

 

Houston, we’ve got a problem.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t exactly feel pumped or exhilarated to dive into a resolution process that has a 91% fail rate. (Can I make that deduction? Math wasn’t my strongest subject.)

So I say, let’s not!

To heck with tradition!

Instead, let me introduce you to…

THE ANTI-RESOLUTION APPROACH FOR STICKING TO YOUR GOALS IN 2018

If New Year’s resolutions aren’t for you, this might be.

I accidentally created this process back in 2015 from our cottage rental in the Austrian Alps.  Born out of frustration and feeling ‘behind’, this process is simple.

It’s heart-centred. It doesn’t involve spreadsheets or hours of reflecting (because who’s got that?!)

It leverages the wisdom that author, speaker and change-maker Danielle Laporte (affiliate link) has enlightened us with when it comes to focusing on our feelings first .

And most importantly, it busts the myth that “new year’s resolutions don’t stick”.

I know this because I’ve used it for the past few years, and I’ve achieved Every. Single. Goal. #allIwannadoiswin

And if you follow this five step process, you can too!

“What’s the key that flips the resolution switch?”, you ask?

CREATE A THEME WORD, NOT A LIST OF RESOLUTIONS.

Bam. Resolution blueprint blown up!

Let me show you how.

What you’ll need:

  • 30-45 minutes
  • Three blank pieces of paper
  • Black sharpie
  • Colored sharpie (optional, for the color happy people like moi)
  • Your fav tunes on Spotify to get you in the reflecting mood
  • A desire to consciously create your life

STEP ONE: BRAIN DUMP
Goal: Capture what stands out from last year

Grab one sheet of paper and your black sharpie and brain dump everything you remember about 2017.

The good, the bad and the ugly. No filtering. No editing. No wondering if it’s worth writing it down.

Just dump it like it’s hot and move on.

Flow Tip: Set a timer for 10 minutes and when it goes off, drop your sharpie and move on to step two. And for my sweet perfectionist friends, go ahead and read that tip again. *wink

STEP TWO: HIGHLIGHT REEL
Goal: Tap into the feel-good now

Now grab your coloured sharpie and circle the best moments of last year as if you’re creating a highlight reel.

  • Which memories bring a smile to your face?
  • Which light you up as you re-read them?
  • Which moments were filled with rich resonance and deep fulfillment?

As you go through them, identify what feeling(s) you experienced with each moment.  Abundance? Connection? Clarity? Flow? Light Heartedness? Engaged? Powerful? Doing this will help you when you get to step five. 😉

STEP THREE: GLEAN FROM THE LESS GLAMOROUS
Goal: Flip your less glamorous moments into a teaching moment

Look at what you’ve not yet circled.

Grab the second sheet of paper and write down what you learned from at least 3 of those moments.

  • What happened and what did it teach you?
  • What feelings did these experiences evoke? Fear? Frustration? Lack of control? Unworthiness?
  • What if anything, would you do differently if it happened again?
  • What pattern if any, do you want to let go of now that you’ve seen the impact it had on your life?

For example, if you feel like you held back on a project last year, is the lesson about following your intuition? Saying no? Or maybe it sparked a desire to invest in your personal development this year?

Flow Tip:Set the timer for 15 minutes to keep you flowing. And remember, every hard rock experience has a beautiful gem hidden in it, a lesson to learn, if you’re willing to excavate it. 

STEP FOUR: INVITE AGAIN AND INVITE ANEW
Goal: Capture what you want to invite into this year

Now grab your third piece of paper and brain dump what you want to experience this year.

  • What do you want to invite in again, that you really enjoyed from last year? Connection with friends? Quiet moments in the mornings? Collaboration with your colleagues or biz buddies? Spaciousness in your schedule?
  • What feelings do you want to invite into the new year that you missed last year? Laughter? Creativity? Fun? Capture everything that comes up here. This is where you truly get to be the co-creator of your life experiences and open the doors to what you want.

Flow tip: the more you focus on the feelings you want to experience (eg. alive and energetic) vs the specifics (eg. ‘lose 10 pounds’), the more you open yourself up to the infinite ways the universe can bring you the experiences you are wanting. THIS is the flipping of the traditional process I’ve been referring to!

STEP FIVE: CHOOSE YOUR THEME WORD(S)
Goal: Choose 1-3 words that will guide every action, choice and decision you make

Word by word, read what you just wrote in step four, and check out how it makes you feel.

  • How does your body react with each sentence? Which words make you sit taller? Shrink?
  • Would a year filled with those feelings and experiences excite you…or does it stink like a ‘should’?
  • If it doesn’t make you want to jump up and down, cross it off! Follow your gut instinct on this.  There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. Trust how it makes you feel and make your choice based on that.

What word (or string of words) will create the theme for the coming year?

Flow tip: For this step, I grabbed my journal and transferred the feelings from step four that felt could be my theme word(s). From there, I brainstormed and added a few other words that I found from a quick online search on ‘feelings’.  Then, I sat back, closed my eyes and felt into which one would bring me the most fulfillment – not from my head, but from my heart.

AND THERE YOU HAVE IT!

You’ve now got the anti-resolution process I’ve used since 2015 which sets you up for success.  For 2016, my theme words were “Cleanse, Connect, Compose”. For 2017, my theme word was MAGIC. This year? I’ve got a date with my journal and will share it in the comments once I’ve got it.

And now I want to hear from you.

What do you think about this process? Does it feel easy? Do you like the idea of having a theme word? Or, do you have another process to create resolutions that stick?

I’d love to hear about it in the comments!  And if you have your theme word, I’d love to hear that too!

For the love of doing things differently,

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